RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Stuck in your relationship? Good news: it is (also) your fault.


You can talk endlessly about communication. Or connection. Or safety.

You've probably heard it all already. Maybe even tried it. And now you're sitting here. On this website.

Searching again. Or better: finally willing to really look at what is going on.


No coaching, no quick fixes, no talk about 'keeping love alive'.

What I offer is psychological guidance regarding relational dynamics.

Sometimes you work on this together with your partner — if that makes sense. But it always comes down to that one question most people would rather avoid: how do you yourself contribute to what frustrates you?


Usually, things are already wrong when you come knocking on my door.

Not superficially wrong, but deeper than that:


  • Your partner no longer feels like a safe place.
  • There is distance, reproach, silence, or conversely, endless talking without movement.
  • Boundaries have shifted, or disappeared.
  • You are in love with someone else — or just empty inside.
  • You want to leave. Or have already left, mentally.


And yet you are here.

Because somewhere there is still hope that things can be different.

Or because you want to understand what happened.

Or simply because you no longer want to run away from yourself.


What I do

  • I expose what lies psychologically beneath your pattern.
  • I examine your own part — without judging you, but also without sparing you.
  • I work with what is now — not with how it should have been.
  • And if your partner comes along, this isn't relationship therapy with assignments and homework, but a session where what has been kept silent is finally said. Sometimes sharp, always sincere.


What this is not

  • No 'therapy for couples' with fill-in-the-blanks and communication rules.
  • No band-aids on traumas you never faced together.
  • No neutral nonsense like 'I'm standing between you' — I want to touch you. Otherwise, nothing happens.


Call it what you want:


  • Relationship therapy for emotional distance
  • help with relationship problems
  • Partner relationship reaches a standstill
  • preventing or understanding divorce
  • arguments and silences in a relationship
  • repairing the connection after infidelity
  • relationship with inequality
  • love without contact
  • breaking a fixed pattern in the relationship


One of these search terms probably brought you to this page. But what I offer is psychological treatment for relationship issues.

That goes deeper than a neutral approach based on methodologies, instruments, and protocols. No soft landing — but movement!

Not to keep things pleasant, but to finally make it fair.


Practical

Sometimes your partner comes along. Sometimes you work alone.

Sessions last 45 to 60 minutes.

Would you like to come over for a chat sometime? Then we can dive right in.

No vague introduction. No intake with checklists. Just get started.